So, if we have lemons and sugar, and mix them together, not sure what we would get, a kind of lemony sugary sludge perhaps, but certainly not lemonade. What do we need to do, is pretty obvious, we need to add the water, easy and painfully obvious! It is the flow, that takes us from lemon sludge to lemonade! Yummy!
When we are handed a life lemon, it is super easy to get stuck, a sludge of our own. Stuck in the pain, the frustration, the confusion, just plain stuck! To make lemonade we add water, to make lemonade out of our lemons we have to add flow, movement towards the sweetness and out of the bitterness. On paper it sounds easy, JUST DO IT as Nike says! In the midst of the lemon situation, it is far from easy and that is OK, in fact we need to know it is not easy.
Flow means, actions, thoughts or behaviors that move you toward your desired outcome. I knew I wanted/ needed to drive again, so even if it was 20 miles an hour at first, I did it, that was flow towards being able to drive again. I knew I wanted to ski again, so I put my ski clothes on and went to the hill. At first this ski instructor could barely do the bunny slope, but I did it! The victim of domestic violence, got up each day and made sure she could find a home and then a job and a school for her son, one step each day, and one day several weeks later, she had a home, a job, a school for her son and a Christmas tree!
Depending on the size of your lemon, you may have a long to do list, or a long journey to recovery or a long wait of some kind. Don’t let the length of it deter you from flow. All that needs to be done, is the thing that needs to be done. So, for example, after our accident there was so much to do, so many doctors appointments, accident forms, pain, fear, uncertainty that if I thought about the whole thing I became overwhelmed. Instead I adopted an attitude of flow, I did each thing as it needed to be done and did not look down the long winding path and by doing one thing at a time, we traveled on the journey to recovery.
So, remember to flow, to move towards your sweetener, towards your lemonade, and enjoy!
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